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Personal Coaching: Nonviolent Communication

Learn the skills of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) used by our mediators with one of our experienced NVC trainers!

The language and skills of NVC are designed to facilitate connection with ourselves and others and to bring us to a state where compassionate giving flows naturally. Practicing empathy and tapping into feelings and universal needs, this practice will help you feel confident in your ability to communicate and connect with those around you and can help you to navigate conflicts and difficult conversations with authenticity and care.

What is NVC?

As explained by Marshall Rosenberg PhD, founder of NVC and author of, “Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life”: “NVC is a ‘language of life’ that helps us to transform old patterns of defensiveness and aggressiveness into compassion and empathy and to improve the quality of all of our relationships.

Studying and practicing NVC creates a foundation for learning about ourselves and our relationships in every moment, and helps us to remain focused on what is happening right here, right now.

Although it is a model for communication, NVC helps us to realize just how important connection is in our lives. In fact, having the
intention to connect with ourselves and others is one of the most important goals of practicing and living NVC. We live our lives from moment to moment, yet most of the time we are on autopilot, reacting out of habit rather than out of awareness and presence of mind. By creating a space for attention and respect in every moment, NVC helps create a pathway and a practice that is accessible and approachable.”

The Three Modes of NVC

  1. Self-awareness: Being aware of our own experience is crucial for effective communication and action with others. When
    we are aware of what we are thinking and feeling, and the underlying needs behind them, we are more able to make requests that will meet the needs of ourselves and others.
  2. Empathy: Viewing the situation from another’s perspective helps us to see the universal needs we share and promotes care for one another.
  3. Honesty: Facilitates accountability, and allows for the formulation of effective requests and agreements to ensure everyone’s needs are met.

The Four Components of NVC

  1. Observation: What are you perceiving through your five senses?
  2. Feeling: What physical sensations and emotions are you noticing?
  3. Need: What universal need/value is important to you right now?
  4. Request: What could you ask for that could contribute to well-being?

To connect with one of our trainers about personal coaching in Nonviolent Communication please call (808) 866-0833 or send us an email at info@nvcnextgen.org